The extent to which their drinking affected other people is one of the most profound realizations that the majority of people who begin recovery from alcohol addiction come to. This is because many alcoholics believe that their excessive drinking only has an effect on themselves.
Therefore, nobody else is to blame. A major misconception is this.
It’s possible that all of it is an alcoholic’s denial. However, it is evidently false, and the children of alcoholic parents or key caregivers frequently suffer the most.
What effects does excessive drinking have on children?
A parent’s excessive drinking can have a number of negative effects on their children. When a child is still a child, this will continue to have a significant impact on their development and ability to navigate the world.
As a result, it will have a negative impact on everything, including their relationships and work as well as their mental and physical health. Unless they seek therapy, this will most likely last their entire lives.
Alcohol Health and Research World examined a number of studies and discovered a number of factors. Specifically, these were the detrimental effects of parental drinking on adolescents.
However, they are applicable to any child. The consequences that those children face as adults are also the same.
One of the conclusions was that a parent who drinks a lot will probably be unpredictable and inconsistent. Overall, this will be bad for important parenting skills that help a parent raise a child or children.
Additionally, a lack of parental supervision will result from alcohol abuse. They won’t learn how to make healthy choices or what behaviors are appropriate and inappropriate.
The Lost Child: Emotional suppression A child of an alcoholic parent will quickly discover that their parent is rarely, if ever, there for them emotionally. They will probably begin to contain their feelings.
or find a different means of releasing them. These might be bad for them and other people around them, like when they get angry or fight a lot.
They might start drinking or using drugs to control their emotions as early as their teen years. Naturally, they have learned this behavior from what they see at home, so it seems normal.
Alcoholism and parental abuse A parent who alternates between being drunk and hungover will be erratic in their behavior. A person’s personality changes when they are drunk.
As a result, they may not be able to discipline their children at all (not to mention that parents who drink excessively are more likely to be imprisoned). Alternately, it might be harsh, sometimes extremely harsh.
A child is clearly harmed if it is harsh, such as verbal, emotional, or physical abuse. They should be safe in their own home, but they will be living in fear there.
Delinquent peer groups Most children who have an alcoholic parent will not know what to do until they are in their early teens. The majority of young children will not even consider leaving their home.
A child is more likely to develop unhealthy behaviors if they are not disciplined in the healthy way that most parents tell them what is acceptable and what is not. They might understand they can pull off anything.
The child will begin to receive emotional support from peers if there is no emotional support from parents. However, this indicates that by adolescence, they are more likely to be in an unhealthy peer group and even delinquent.
Unemployed man’s worries about money and disagreements A parent’s higher alcohol consumption is linked to more disagreements in relationships. A child will suffer greatly if they witness a lot of arguments and perhaps fights between their parents.
Additionally, excessive drinking increases a person’s risk of job loss or unemployment. This frequently results in more drinking.
Most likely, it will result in financial difficulties. This causes yet more issues, including expanded relationship struggle and actual maltreatment of kids.
Important negative effects on a child with an alcoholic parent Addiction risk is higher A child with an alcoholic parent is more likely to develop an addiction. This is not always alcohol; it could also be drugs, a behavioral addiction like eating or exercising, or, as they get older, a gambling, sex, or work addiction.
More likely to have problems with their mental health They are more likely to have stress, anxiety, depression, and PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder).
Lower academic achievement A child of an alcoholic parent is more likely to struggle academically because they are more likely to experience feelings of anxiety and not receive sufficient support from their parents. It’s obvious that this could hurt their career.
No sense of normality Because alcohol use is accepted as normal in families with an alcoholic parent, children will feel self-conscious and confused when they are old enough to understand that drinking so much alcohol is not common in most other families. If they see a healthy family environment, they will feel the same way.
Child with low self-esteem, sadness, and depression who sits alone When a parent drinks excessively and frequently, the child receives a clear message: Alcohol concerns me much more than you do. Self-esteem, self-love, and self-confidence suffer as a result.
Problems with interactions Growing up with a parent who has an alcohol use disorder can affect a child’s adult interactions. Their relationships with friends, family, partners, and coworkers are likely to suffer as a result.
Trust issues are likely to arise if a child grows up in a household where denial, cheating, keeping secrets, and lying are commonplace. Because their parents will have frequently broken their promises as children, it is extremely difficult to trust anyone.
Fear of Abandonment: An adult child frequently develops a strong fear of abandonment when a parent is emotionally or physically unavailable. This indicates that out of fear of being abandoned, they will continue in unhealthy relationships.
People-pleasers and perfectionists An alcoholic parent will likely rarely be satisfied with their child. Most likely, their child will be the target of frequent criticism.
Because of this, the adult child always strives for perfection, so there is no reason to criticize them. However, this is an extremely challenging way of life.
The same goes for pleasing others. The adult child finds it extremely difficult to ever say no because they are so desperate for everyone to be happy with them.
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